tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1458862844610146892.post6645528314854999933..comments2023-10-08T11:38:43.498-04:00Comments on Client Nine and a Half: Pound The Alarm?advochastyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10602192383025913039noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1458862844610146892.post-27216242152772540342012-10-08T16:56:45.426-04:002012-10-08T16:56:45.426-04:00HMP -
Oh of course I'll give it another go......HMP -<br /><br />Oh of course I'll give it another go...<br /><br />What's really weird is I got pretty good at the dating thing when I was living alone. I didn't find many willing partners but I put myself out a lot and learned date speak pretty well. I generally liked it alot because I didn't take it too seriously.<br /><br />If I'd cancelled a movie with a date but said I've got time to see you for a drink would it be weird if she wanted to reschedule all together? I don't know.<br /><br />I cancelled sex not the date itself. I suppose it's why I thought she got a better offer, but Margo could be right and there could be all sorts of other reasons.<br /><br />Now, because I hate the sneak anymore and I don't want to hurt my wife by getting "caught", finding the time and place and figuring out the how is really challenging. Really, South Florida is the best answer as I'm alone down there and it doesn't feel like hiding and sneaking.<br /><br />Used to be that the sneak was sexual. Now I don't want to sneak around anymore. I didn't really realize how much of a negative feeling I had for the sneak. Weird the way things change.<br /><br />She's a very cool woman who seems to want to do kinky, nasty things with me. Don't want to get too meaninglessly choosy for sure.advochastyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10602192383025913039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1458862844610146892.post-6379184146655959012012-10-08T16:32:07.048-04:002012-10-08T16:32:07.048-04:00Margo,
You and HMP are right. I need to give it ...Margo,<br /><br />You and HMP are right. I need to give it more time and more chances. I could definitely see that she might be intimidated or be a bit nervous. Even She-Who-Visits, who was a very experienced pro-domme when I first met her, has confessed that she was nervous to session with me because I was such a serial domme whore that she had worries about measuring up.<br /><br />That said, Berry Baby for sure has a very healthy ego and we're both taking this very easy. I'm putting out little in the way of expectation. Or at least I'm trying not to ooze anticipation of result.<br /><br />I guess it struck me as weird that if she likes me as much as I like her that she'd opt not to see me when we'd already made the date. I cancelled the sex part, not the date itself.<br /><br />But then, attractive, age appropriate, kinky women who appear to want to have perverted sex with me don't grow on trees. So I in addition to not reeking of expectation I don't want to act like a picky jerk. Thanks for your as always wise counsel.advochastyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10602192383025913039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1458862844610146892.post-1809292980830349082012-10-08T08:47:08.296-04:002012-10-08T08:47:08.296-04:00Hi Advo:
Going to have to agree with Margo on thi...Hi Advo:<br /><br />Going to have to agree with Margo on this one. Really you were the one who cancelled albeit for a good reason. My take is that you should leave doors open whenever possible. Her Majesty and I saw each other casually, drifted apart, saw other people and got back together. If at any point I stopped remaining open to the possibilities I would have denied myself the person who became the love of my life.<br /><br />Dating is so fraught with drama and mind games. Not sure how I would handle it now. In the "old days" I was very loose and relaxed about everything. If things didn't work out the first time I might catch her on the rebound. Which is exactly what happened. HM and I both became seriously involved with other people but ended up finding each other again. You can never tell how things are going to work out. <br /><br />Anyone who is into trying a bit of CFNM tease and denial is worth hanging on to IMHO. Best of luck brother! ;-)Her Majesty's Playthinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07185896552621339359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1458862844610146892.post-62022319866543162642012-10-07T22:30:11.033-04:002012-10-07T22:30:11.033-04:00Dear Advo:
I wouldn't pound the alarm. Not ye...Dear Advo:<br /><br />I wouldn't pound the alarm. Not yet.<br /><br />Peoples' behavior and intentions demonstrate(s?) in cycles and repetitions. She might have cancelled on you for totally legit, unselfish reasons. You have no way of knowing, unless she's given you more info than you've put in this blog post.<br /><br />And consider this from her perspective...she doesn't KNOW why you cancelled. Of course you told her, but she doesn't KNOW, she can't see inside your head. She does know--I gather--that you are an experienced sub. Do you think it's possible that she thinks you cancelled because you thought she'd be a "substandard" domme compared to the other dommes you've seen...?<br /><br /> Dommes can be insecure, too. When I started doing domination--especially with someone who wasn't my boyfriend--I had major stage fright. I was used to teaching and lecturing (in college), and I knew that I had sadistic proclivities, but I was still afraid to DO IT (sexually dominate a sub). It took a lot of practice for me to get past that.<br /><br /><br /> Believe it or not, Advo, she might be intimidated by you and your experience. <br /><br /> If I were you, I'd give her one or two more chances. <br /><br /> Keep spending as much time as you can with her, even if it's just coffee. As a sub, try to be PRESENT without radiating expectation. I know how hard it is. But if she feels pressured, she could chicken out. Does that make sense..? She might be thinking: "I am not domme-ly or sexy at all compared to the talented and experienced dommes Advo has known! He's going to know that I...DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M DOING!" <br /><br />I could be totally wrong about her motivations. But if I were in her shoes, those thoughts would cross my mind.<br /><br />Give her another chance, and take her word at face value. And consider her inexperience. If she's a jerk, or she's going to disrespect your time and effort, or if she's just not ready, you'll find out very quickly. THEN you can sever ties with 100% assurance.<br /><br />That's my take!<br /><br />I wish you the best<br /><br />MargoMiss Margohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09738133130130308032noreply@blogger.com