tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1458862844610146892.post7758935092351441505..comments2023-10-08T11:38:43.498-04:00Comments on Client Nine and a Half: Juneadvochastyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10602192383025913039noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1458862844610146892.post-37071446218899388012009-05-23T13:00:14.184-04:002009-05-23T13:00:14.184-04:00Advo:
I'm glad writing the experience down and sh...Advo:<br /><br />I'm glad writing the experience down and sharing it was cathartic for you. I often find the same thing about blogging.<br /><br />"Accomplished woman, not a wonderfully nurturing mother." Ditto here. You and I have so much in common it's scary.<br /><br />Hey great video! Great song! Great bullet bra! ;-)Her Majesty's Playthinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07185896552621339359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1458862844610146892.post-83607867480384031512009-05-23T10:33:03.564-04:002009-05-23T10:33:03.564-04:00HMP -
Thanks. Didn't know if it wasn't too priva...HMP -<br /><br />Thanks. Didn't know if it wasn't too private to write about so I'm glad it resonated. There's something about writing of my brother's tragedy that was freeing for me.<br /><br />This separated at birth/parallel lives thing we have going just keeps getting more and more so! A good chunk of my submissive wiring is related to Mommy Dearest. Accomplished woman, not a wonderfully nurturing mother.<br /><br />I got lots of great stuff from her though.<br /><br />But I gotta go catch that Downtown Train. Don't you just love the bullet bra on the "Brooklyn Girl" in the Waits video?advochastyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10602192383025913039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1458862844610146892.post-90780279457525567202009-05-23T10:12:19.325-04:002009-05-23T10:12:19.325-04:00Hi Advo:
Wow! That was tremendously heart felt an...Hi Advo:<br /><br />Wow! That was tremendously heart felt and beautifully written!<br /><br />I am so sorry to hear about what happened to your brother! Calamities like that change us forever. They either mold us into who we are or they break us. As someone who is fascinated with what makes submissive men tick it is interesting to know that he was one of us, though his particular twist on it was extremely tragic. I am convinced that the psychological hard wiring that makes us who we are occurs early in life and has a lot to do with our family relationships. <br /><br />We also have a crack cocaine addict in our family. His addiction is baffling and infuriating. I tried taking him to a meeting over a decade ago. The folks in the rooms sussed him out immediately. He did not fool them. He is a master of self deception who has never been serious about getting sober. He goes for months and years seemingly without incident then we get the inevitable phone call. It only works if you work it, as both you and I know.<br /><br />Finally about your Mom, my mother was very much the same way. She was very successful in her field long before women were given the opportunity to succeed at much of anything. She loved me a lot but was also emotionally distant sometimes, doubtless because she was earning her PHD when I was very young and needed her attention the most. She also came from an incredibly dysfunctional family and sometimes became extremely out of control and abusive. She was the disciplinarian in the house but when she beat me she was often full of rage and out of control. I am *positive* that a lot of my subbie maso wiring comes directly from her! <br /><br />We have a problematic relationship though we are still close. My next project is to move her here to Philadelphia and put her in an assisted living community. I am not looking forward to this next phase of her life and fear that it will be fraught with tremendous stress and emotional upheaval.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing this. I got a lot out of reading it. Now back to the painted summer toenails of June! ;-)<br /><br />Best<br /><br />hmpHer Majesty's Playthinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07185896552621339359noreply@blogger.com