Sunday, March 3, 2013

Quest Fetish

I really don't know how I developed my love of being assigned tasks to complete by a nurturing but bossy, critical yet encouraging domme. Does it appeal to my need to be told what to do or be ordered around? Is it more about feeling as though I'm her trusted go fetch it guy, always at the ready? How did it become a sexual thing all on its own? I have no answers; only fun questions.

I get my own satisfaction out of either completing the task or struggling mightily to succeed yet falling short only to have her shake her head in disappointment. She-Who-Visits is expert at assigning me tasks which benefit her, quench my quest fetish, and carry a tease and denial twist to them. Most recently she visited her parents in the suburbs of NYC and asked me for a car service. I offered her mine and after making fun of me for perhaps not having enough money to care for her in such a style, accepted and graciously thanked me for my generousity. During the reservation and pick up process she'd email me and text me with instructions on insuring that the car and driver were present at appointed times and places. She ended with telling me how she'd have to upbraid me in person over the early Monday morning car to JFK which reeked of smoke and made her sick to her stomach. During her visit she came into the city with her family and texted me that she was so close, yet so far away. Even though I didn't get to see her, the whole thing was thrilling and made me feel that much closer to her.

Yesterday completely out of the blue I got a message on FetLife from a domme. The missive was titled "sub wanted". She said she was expert at having her needs satisfied and wondered how I sought satisfaction myself. I told her a little about my quest fetish to please my domme. I wondered this morning whether the message was a generic one sent to many, or would I actually hear back from her. Time will tell.

Finally, in a best-of-kind, I am tasked by the incredibly hot and deliciously intimidating Mistress Alex with scouting locations for a Grand Central Terminal boot blacking photo shoot. This wonderful assignment grew from an interaction she and I had on a chat thread on All Star Dommes. GCT is my favorite public space in the whole world, I have a thing for public play, and she has graciously allowed me to indulge in my quest fetish to my heart's content. As I scour the Terminal I am to send photos and chat to the boot blacking guys about whether they will be okay with Alex having her high sexy black boots shined to a luster while I'm receiving instruction on how to do it right.

Ah perhaps it is merely the desire to dream the impossible dream that calls me so often to quest the pleasure of gorgeously dommy women. Hey, how can I have Andy Williams singing the theme song from "Man of LaMancha"? This is my life, and I ain't gonna live forever.


Northwest Writer said...
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Her Majesty's Plaything said...

Hi Advo:

Great post! This sounds like a typical day at home with Her Majesty. I am frequently:
"assigned tasks to complete by a nurturing but bossy, critical yet encouraging domme." ;-)

Can't wait to see the shots from Grand Central Station! :-)

Aarkey said...

Whenever you've described the "quest fetish" to me, I've always thought it came from a place of service. The fact that you like being told that you failed, I find that to be more of a humiliation thing - with a pinch of "deserving punishment" thrown in.

FWIW, you aren't alone. Though I think you like to take that to a much further level than I do :)

Miss Margo said...

AWESOME ASSIGNMENT...! Can't wait to hear all about it!

I'm a teacher's pet, so I like getting "assignments" too! But I like getting it right more than failing it. I do try awful hard.

When I domme, I like to give my subs homework...literally, homework. Essays, lol. They're on my blog under if you search for "homework assignment."

This was a really fun blog post to read, Advo. Am happy for you!

advochasty said...


It's funny. I wonder how I'd do day in and day out. You are an inspiration my friend!

advochasty said...

Aarkey -

As with everything, it's just not worth doing if you don't go totally overboard in manic OCD fashion! ;-) You are far more judicious than I!

advochasty said...

Margo -

So glad you liked the post! Like you I always try very hard. I never "fail" to get chastised. But it's sort of win win, though I truly hate to disappoint.

I'm curious. Did you watch the Bon Jovi music video? By a large margin, the most viewed posts on my blog are music videos! I'm amazed. I love them but I always figure people are too busy to listen. I really liked the kid's "quest" to get to the tunnel concert as a compliment to the post.