Friday, November 12, 2010

Holly Came From Miami FLA

Upheaval, cataclysmic transition, adjustment as agonizing as it is thrilling. But at bottom, it is all about change.

A few months ago I sat in the Fort Lauderdale aiport, writing my blog having come up short. Today as I write, I'm a sworn member of the club (I'm told there's a secret handshake), I have an office, and I am reviewing a lease for a huge, cheap, sleek, apartment with a free parking space. For a Manhattanite - this is shangri-la!! My dream of being a bi-east-coastal big shot is upon me. Now the trick is to get work.

On the other hand, my wife has been diagnosed with a horrible neurological condition that may in fact lead to an utter dissembling of any remote quality of life and cause the most horrible of swift, but torturous deaths. We find out more just after the first of the year.

I could talk about riding waves or the best of worst times or worst of best times. But figure if I show up each day and reach for the strength to be present; I'll be here to deal.

Not much kink. Just a lot of life with its fractured and frustrating flights of fancy and fear. I just f'd the f out of that, huh?


Her Majesty's Plaything said...

Hi Advo:

Congratulations on your success and good luck with getting set up in FLA! My heart goes out to both you and your wife. I am hoping for the best with that situation. I know it must be terribly difficult!

Walk On The Wild Side is one of my favorite songs of all time...

Subdued said...

Hi Advo,

I'm so sorry to hear that about your wife, and I hope the final prognosis is a better one than what you've just described. I realize that much of this blog has been about your separation from her, but I also know that your relationship is still a deep and longstanding one and that this must be very tough. Wishing you both the best.

advochasty said...


Both the office and the condo are great! On the condo at least I suffer extreme reverse sticker shock. My walk-in closet in Miami would go for $2,500/month in Manhattan. And the free parking is wonderous. Twenty odd years ago when I scored a garage for $140 a month over 50 blocks away I thought I was the coolest!

Thanks for the well wishes. I just want to try and be present and there.


There's some chance that things will arrest or the diagnosis will change. But even if things aren't as dire as they may be, they are bad.

It is a deep and longlasting relationship and I am touched by that observation in a very supportive way. Thanks!

Aarkey said...

Wow. Talk about ebb and flow. I'm sorry for the sad news, and selfishly happy to have you bi-east-coastal.


advochasty said...

Aarkey -

It is a time of such stark contrast. True death and exciting rebirth share the center stage of my life on a daily basis.

One of the true good is my upcoming bi-east-coastalism. I had lunch in downtown Miami Friday and listened to jazz Saturday night in Manhattan with the new crush girl.

Who bite me on the cheek!! On purpose!! I think I like her!!

Her Majesty's Plaything said...

Which cheek? :p

advochasty said...


Right cheek. Right face cheek ... let's not get carried away here!