Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Twenty Plus

When my computer boots up it automatically opens to MSN. Invariabaly there is some vapid top ten study that I get sucked into before I go about my web surf. Something like, "The Top Ten American Cities For Beautiful People". Oh yeah, major league intellectual stuff.

So this morning I sign on and there's a top ten study about lasting relationships so I'm scrolling through the amazing insights. One entry claimed that the intensity of couples "in love" actually increased once you hit 20 years. Yeah right.

And ten minutes later as I am getting ready to leave for Miami I can't help but cry. I don't cry much in public or to anyone who doesn't really, really know me. But I thought that the idiot MSN study got it right. Okay, my wife is terminally ill. But somehow even if she weren't, I think I'd still feel an increasing depth of feeling. Everything is colored by the tragic unfairness of her illness. But there's just something that's right about the power of time. Even if it's not perfect. Even if there are significant holes there's something irreplacably valuable about somebody who has been right by you for twenty four years.

Then again, a little kink is a fine thing...


Her Majesty's Plaything said...

Hi Advo:

It's been scientifically proven that 9 out of 10 top rated articles are top ten articles.

The bond between two people deepens immeasurably with time. Too often folks in our culture confuse love with that initial ephemeral infatuation that occurs during the first year and vaporizes shortly thereafter. Very little can take the place of a love that has stood the test of time.

I wish you luck with everything my friend. And yes a little bit of kink is a very fine thing. So go get your kink on bro! ;-)

advochasty said...


It has also been conclusively established that 9 out of 10 of top ten articles don't say much of anything at all. This one just seemed to resonate.

Yes, get my kink on. It's like dating. All I can do is put myself in harm's way and hope for the best. I'm invested not at all in this process at this point. With little ventured it's all gravy if something happens.

I just try to enjoy the ride.