Saturday, October 4, 2008

Cheeseburger At The Little Gem Diner

What is a munch anyway? I'd heard about 'em. I even wrote that I was thinking of going to one. Really ... I had no clue. But, not to fear. Sir Viktor of DSF answers my burning question ...

"What is a munch? A munch is a low-pressure social gathering for people involved in or interested in BDSM. A munch is usually held in a restaurant."

Ahhh ... okay ... now we're talkin'. But not any old restaurant. The DSF munch is held in a diner. Indeed, it is venued at the famous, kink-friendly Moonstruck Diner on 23rd Street and Ninth Avenue in Manhattan. Little did I know that for years -- no decades -- the Moonstruck has been the place for kinksters to meet and greet and scarf down cheeseburgers, or in my case, a chicken caesar salad.

My dear friend Scarlett did a great Max board post entitled, "So how are you going to support the scene?" And so, heart thump-thumping like a little snare drum on meth, I suggested we meet up for the munch at the Moonstruck. Now, I gotta tell ya, I'm a little socially phobic at the best of times. All those second form dances in prep school with "Cherish" playin', everyone except me doin' the double clutch ... I go back to standing in the corner all lonely and miserable in a heartbeat. But in true submissive man style, I've been able to overcome my social fears with discipline and training so I'm actually asking this smart, hot, oh-so-nice, kick-ass domme to meet me at the Moonstruck.

And munch we did. Our host Viktor had this uncanny way of making everyone feel at home. It was such a fun, easy, mind-expanding way to meet other people who are into kink. Guy doms married to women dommes, submissive guys with dommy women talking about how to be in a bdsm relationship. I'm not real up on all the various nooks and crannies of the scene, but it was so nice and fun. I had a wonderful time.

Most left for Paddles. I stayed and chatted with three way cool dommes and a great sub-guy. Drinkin' decaf and savoring community in the face of the Salem-style witch hunt that has beset our city. And there I was -- out -- feeling normal-kinky, doing what I could to support our thing.

Yeah ... diner ... my shiny, shiny love - you're all I'm thinkin' of ...


Aarkey said...

Glad you had fun. I've found that most of my munch experiences were quite nice. The times I went with unreasonable expectations were the times that it wasn't a lot of fun.

Some people really think going to a munch is like shopping for a new pair of shoes. Try a few one and then pick the one you want to wear home... yah... umm... nope.

advochasty said...

Hmmm ... a shoe store metaphor from you!! ;-) Perfecto!!

Actually I went with little in the way of expectation. I'm trying hard these days to ration expectation ... easier to be pleasantly surprised.

I had a great time and look forward to going to more.