Monday, April 13, 2009

The Perfect Fetish Accessory

I'm a bit of a clothes horse, at least when it comes to work wear. Not a fashion victim, not a fop, and certainly not a dandy. I will, however, answer to dapper, pulled together, and well turned out. However, I am at a bit of a loss when thinking about an outfit for a fetish party. Not that I've ever been to a fetish party, mind you. Never been to a fetish party in my life. I do want to go, but the haunting question is what would I wear? Axe wrote recently about a guy's fetish dress for success dilema. For a guy like me, the trick is how to be different, yet classic.

While I have an outfit in mind, I think the perfect fetish accessory is the bow tie. Indeed, the venerable Wall Street Journal has come out and said the bow tie is cool and is making a comeback. That the WSJ is proclaiming a staple item of my workaday wardrobe to be cool may be reason enough to abandon it. But that aside, there are many reasons why I love a bow tie as part of a kink ensemble.

A bow tie is the perfect pervertable collar. You can wear it with a suit and look dashingly cool with that devil-may-care edge of nerdy chic. But shed your clothes and re-tie the bow around your neck and you have a colorful collar. I'm going to have the tailor at my local dry cleaner sew a D-ring into a black and blue bow and call it my perfect clandestine, pervertable fetish accessory. Tied tight and sure, a domme could drag me around a dungeon floor all night long on my self tied bow. During the day I could definitely wear this functional bow tie collar under a nice white shirt and pair it with a navy chalk stripe wool suit. The pervert just aches to break out of his besuited disguise.

As well, the bow tie bespeaks a throw back to a bygone era of service. Waiters, maitre'ds, old timey movie/theatre ushers all wore them. And they were real bow ties. Guys knew how to tie a bow. This skill evoked a certain masculine sartorial credibility, yet the whole bow tie thing is decidedly submissive. But no clip-ons, please. Club Fem, a lifestyle femme-domme group here in NYC, includes a leather bow tie as part of it's "uniform" for slaves. Sorry, but unless you're letting me tie my own, it's a deal breaker. A friend suggested I petition the group for a change in the rules and then offer workshops in the art of tying on a bow tie. Hmmmm ... we shall see.

I have a sixties vintage Sergeant Pepper-esque, drum major style tuxedo jacket in black and blue. I figure that, a black t-shirt, some rock 'n rolla black satin pants and a pair of ballet slippers would make a very nice fetish outfit. Top it off with my special clandestine bow tie collar and I'd be ready for anything.

There's just something wonderfully inspiring and classic about bringing a domme anything when wearing nothing but a bow tie - that I've tied myself. Diana Rigg as Emma Peel. Oh to bring her anything, wearing only a bow tie


Her Majesty's Plaything said...

Hi Advo:

The advice I always heard about attending fetish parties was "if you're not sure what to wear just wear black!" For my one and only fetish party (more of an informal gathering of perverts) I wore a really beautiful black silk shirt from Italy and black dress pants. It wasn't very imaginative but my Mistress was happy with it which, at the time, was all that mattered. Besides, I wasn't in my clothes for very long!!!! :-p

Love the idea about the bow tie! ;-)


advochasty said...

When I went to Paddles last summer with She-Who-Visits I was told to wear black. I was going to get black jeans. No trousers and a t-shirt.

The t-shirt I selected was a medium. She observed that it was roomy on me. She said, "We're not going to a barbeque, you know."

Her Majesty's Plaything said...

Whoops! Sounds like a fashion don't! ;-)

advochasty said...

At least it didn't rise to the level of a fashion felony!! ;-P

Ms. Rayne said...

What would be a fashion felony? Mesh?

advochasty said...

It is my belief that fashion felonies ought to be considered on a case-by-case basis. The "totality of circumstances" ought to be among the guiding standards of review.

For example, over the weekend I watched American Swing a documentary about Plato's Retreat which was a famous sex club in Manhattan in the '70's and '80's. I actually went there once for a "Kink Night", but that's a whole other story.

Anyway, they described guys who attended the club early on who wore black lace up dress shoes with black knee high dress socks - and nothing else.

I'd say - Fashion Felony in the First Degree!

However, mesh ... depending on where worn, how worn, who's doing the wearing, and how accessorized might not necessarily be felonious.

Misdemeanor mesh?

Her Majesty's Plaything said...

I had a couple of mesh tank tops when I was a teenager. Let's see; mesh tank top, hairy armpits, bushy, frizzy, mushroom cloud hair right out of Jethro Tull..... Yup! That sounds like a capital offense to me! ;-)


advochasty said...

Mesh on guys ... maybe it should be a per se fashion crime.

slave2Catwoman said...

You can get a leather bow tie that already has a metal ring attached. I have one.